?!!! Do You Believe in Love At The First Sight

[GhaZaL.Mr]

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I love love

What An Interesting Sentence Saba. I Love Love

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as Dr shariati has said TO LIKE IS BETTER THAN TO LOVE

Completely Agree With You & Dr Shari'ati

[cz.aria]

!nice to see u again mommy ghazal after too many months!! and tnx for accompaniment

[GhaZaL.Mr]

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!nice to see u again mommy ghazal after too many months!! and tnx for accompaniment

? O o .. Long Time No See Dear Son.... By The Way I AM Ghazal With Capital G. Ok
: ) It Was Just My Idea,Not Accompaniment.Try To Be Self-defensive Little Aria

[مهرگان]

my dear friends
what a hot discussion! i became happy to see dear Czi try to come more than before, and also my dear Ghazal i just think that some one like Hossein is absent

ok, this looks to be a nice topic, i suggest not to stop the discussions.
and now my opinions: bigbang, one basic question: i retorted: sorry to remind you your grammatical mistakes, then how did you concluded that girls judge based on feelings not logic? and also, i havn't seen any misbehaves made by you, good boy

the next one: saba 'kootah naia!' this big bang is saying different things to know how girls judge! do you know why? saba do you remember once we thought we are entering bigbang's red restricted part of life? now he is talking about his bad experience of love that he had had in the past, i don't believe.

the third: dear Czi, i personally don't know why Dr shariati had said that ' doost dashtan az eshgh bartar ast' (also especial tnx for saba to remark the translation point :*) may be other friends can guide me, what does that sentence mean?
basically, how can you differ 'eshgh' from 'doost dashtan' ? let me say sth, does it mean that love is a feelingss to some one special and liking is a feeling that expands and can involve so many ones , hm?


i have other questions, too

. one thing: we don't bother each other, we are discussing

[cz.aria]

:lemme tell u the complete quote
"Oh lord! teach everybody you like that "LOVE" is better than "LIFE" and Let taste everybody you like more, that "LIKE" is better than "LOVE
!khodaya be har ke dust midariash biamuz ke eshgh az zendegi kardan behtar ast va be har ke dust tar midariash becheshan ke dust dashtan bartar ast az eshgh
as i heard there's kinda egocentricity in LOVE that never exists in LIKE
(also consider that LOVE can change into HATE in a moment whereas LIKE takes long time to change into hate (ofcourse if it is supposed to change, it usually turns into DISLIKE not into HATE
some of my friends that are in love with Dr shariati!! and have read all of his books say that he wanna talk about the LOVE that we all know not anything special
so i think u r wrong
!and as a conclusion you can call it love like adore fondness dote .... but the only thing important is that we love/like/adore ..... each other

[Saba_Baran90]

Thanks for pointing it out Aria
But when i talk about the term "LOVE" in English, I'm thinking of "Doost Dashtan" and not ESHGH
So I think we are on the same page
Every body believes that Doost Dashtan is Better:Smooth, Long lasting and strong
?But Why do is sense anger in your tone
?Are u mad at me
i get a feeling like you feel like you are trying to make a naieve not exprienced person to FOr GOD's SAKE understand what u say
Dont worry
!Remember?I've never been good at expressing me
I just wanted u 2 know that by the English word LOVE, I mean the farsi translation DOOST DASHTAN
I seriously hope i have made my oint this time
And dear mehregan the difference between LIKE and LOVE is the way each one leaves its track in your life and makes you feel
!Their taste

[cz.aria]

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?But Why do is sense anger in your tone
?Are u mad at me
i get a feeling like you feel like you are trying to make a naieve not exprienced person to FOr GOD's SAKE understand what u say

hmm somebody translate the first line for me! kidding
i just asked some questions and there wasn't any anger in my post
but now that i reread my post i think it was better to use some smilies to reduce its seriousness and not to misunderstand u
sorry for that

[Saba_Baran90]

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hmm somebody translate the first line for me! kidding
i just asked some questions and there wasn't any anger in my post
but now that i reread my post i think it was better to use some smilies to reduce its seriousness and not to misunderstand u

sorry for that

! The first line has only one extra letter:s
you have done this one more time remember?Being busy all day finding something out while you could've just taken it as a little spelling mistake

And by the way i wont forgive you for scaring me out
I actually kinda felt that you were yelling
?Did i creep u out enough now

[مهرگان]

Written by M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Psychology of falling in love

Does Love at First Sight Exist?

Before exploring outer space people used to think that the earth was flat and that you could fall off its edge if you ever went that far.

The same goes for everything else that we don’t understand. People usually try to associate all unknown facts with things they are familiar with and love is no exception to that rule.

Even though learning about the psychology of falling in love can help you understand why you fall in love and why you love someone but not the other still the majority of people prefer not to read about it and to just think of love as a mysterious process that has no rules.

Love at first sight exists simply because many of us have been through it before. This article is going to explain to you why you might fall in love with someone at the first sight.
Why Do We Fall in Love?

I have talked about this topic extensively in this article so I am just going to give a brief explanation about it here.

In most cases, we fall in love to compensate for our unmet needs, when we find someone similar to us, when we find someone who reminds us of a close person we love (like one of our parents for example) or when someone meets our unconscious criteria. The unconscious criteria is simply a list of traits that should be found in a person before we can fall in love with him.

If you understood the previous points then you may have already guessed why we sometimes fall in love with someone at the first sight. We fall in love at the first sight when someone meets most of our unconscious criteria at the first meeting.

For example if a guy had dark skin and really loved his mother then it’s very likely that his unconscious criteria will include items such as 1) She should have white skin and that 2) She should be as kind as my mother. Of course it’s not that simple; the criteria can be very complex and can include hundreds of items but I am just simplifying the idea in order for you to easily get it.

What will happen if that guy met a girl who has such traits? What if in addition to all that she was attractive as well? Most probably that guy will develop an instant crush on her, or as we say, love her at the first sight.

People who fall in love at the first sight usually believe in false ideas like "the one" and "soul mate". In my book “How to get over someone in few days” i explained how getting rid of such concepts can be a vital step in the recovery from any breakup.

By just understanding how love at the first sight works you are actually helping yourself in getting over such false beliefs.

Love or Best Friends?

Now the question that may have popped into your mind is “Why do I sometimes find someone who is absolutely fantastic, has many good traits but i still never love him at the first sight?”.

The answer is simple: either because he didn’t match your criteria at all or because you are looking for traits that can’t be noticed at the first meeting. That’s why people who care much about physical appearance are more likely to experience love at first sight than others. Because many items in their criteria is dependent on appearance ,which is something that can be noticed quickly, they usually fall in love at the first sight.

The earth is not flat and love is not that mysterious. Read a lot and seek answers so that you can remove these mysteries from you life.

adapted from: 2knowmyself